To Sleep With Someone, Or Not
Sharing a bed with someone is, usually, a pleasurable experience. But what about those who toss and turn, or when someone hogs the covers? There’s a debate for both sides—whether to share the bed, or not.
Not only does having someone to snuggle up to make your bed a happier place, but it also makes you happy, too—studies show that the warmth of another body in your bed releases oxytocin, or “the love hormone.” That’s why everybody loves to cuddle so much. Babies who sleep in the same room as their parents, especially their mom, fall asleep sooner—the sense of safety and intimacy is hardwired in us early on.
That development of intimacy goes for relationships, too. The more sleep time you spend with your partner, the closer you are. It’s not all about body contact, either. People who wake from dreams or nightmares with someone to console them—or even just a body to turn to—feel safer. It can often enhance mornings, too—having a shared wake time, or even just a morning ritual of a quiet kiss goodbye—can ease the dread of the day. On the flip side, for couples who don’t see each other often because of conflicting schedules, sharing a bed can be the place they reconnect, making it that much more intimate.
Then there’s also the fun part of intimacy… readily available, just on the other side of the mattress.
Everyone sleeps differently. Some people quietly curl up, while other toss, turn, thrash, and steal covers. That motion can be not only annoying, but a true detriment to one’s health if it keeps up. Sleep is when we recharge, and if you’re spending all night fighting with your partner for the covers, or shaking them to stop snoring, you’re not getting the rest you need. Temperature, too, can be a factor—some people are over-warm sleepers, which can disrupt their partner if they’re sweating or throwing off blankets.
While some argue there’s no better sleep than a solo one, opinions differ. Some people are so adjusted to nights with a partner, they can’t sleep alone. For those who aren’t used to someone else laying next to them, another body can mean less sleep. Both are easy to adapt out of—it all depends on willingness.
Either way, one thing is sure: A human body likes to be close to another. Absence literally does make the heart grow fonder. Those who regularly sleep with a partner and have a few nights, or even just one, away, do say they sleep well alone—but are happier to come back to a shared bed.
So, our verdict? Positively pro.